Is there anything that you’ve seen recently that you think is completely radical? Something that shocked you? The Rihanna “Pour it Up” video made me feel that I might not actually know how to fuck. That intrigued me and upset me.
Personal OGs: I tend to admire people who express an ecstatic curiosity about being alive, people who have power and focus and protect their ability to be innocent: Carole King, Roald Dahl, Thich Nhat Hanh, the creators of Sesame Street, David Byrne. And Malala Yousafzai has already done so much that is truly inspirational. I think we will all be looking to her for a very long time.
really love and feel things for Jenny Slate yet I still haven’t seen Obvious Child *goes back to watching Publizity clips forever*
"Female sexuality has been my primary subject. But in my formative years, it was hard to find models that moved beyond objectification. Gay writing, on the other hand, gave me a sexual vocabulary, as well as techniques for turning the tables and objectifying men. In one of Kevin’s stories he describes his penis as looking like the pylon logo of the 1939 World’s Fair. I remember reading that and being stunned. His persona was a far cry from the Erica Jong protagonist whose value lies in being looked at, not in what she’s doing. Reading Kevin and other gay authors, I saw how erotic writing could be more than just a description of sexual acts. It could create a new sexual relationship: the writer as top, the reader as bottom."
“To test the waters we started making out and sleeping in the same bed. Sometimes our lovemaking felt like lesbian sex, sometimes like gay sex, but it never felt like straight sex. For one thing, with Kevin, fucking was an option, not an expectation. For another, the power dynamics were always shifting and circling back on themselves. With straight guys I felt like I was alone in the dark, being acted upon. With Kevin, it felt like we were two people in mutual need and at equal risk.”
"public display and operatic suffering—an in-your-face owning of one’s vulnerability and fucked-upness to the point of embarrassing and offending tight-asses is a powerful feminist strategy. Writing is tough work, I don’t see how anyone can really write from a position of weakness. Sometimes I may start out in that position, but the act of commandeering words flips me into a position of power."